Marriage & Family Life
The Project offers support and information at all stages of the family life cycle.
This ministry is informed and supported by the Bishops' Conference national marriage and family life project http://www.catholicfamily.org.uk/
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Project Co-ordinator
Susan Tym
Hallam Pastoral Centre, St Charles Street, Sheffield S9 3WU
0114 256 6407
stym@hallam-diocese.com
Celebrating Family Project
Celebrating Family Project is comprised of three strands (Click on logos to go to their websites)
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It contains a set of leaflets called ‘What is Life Like’ which is recommended as an easy to use tool to help parishes become more welcoming, friendly and family sensitive.
Contact Susan Tym Email : stym@hallam-diocese.com Tel: 0114 2566 407
Or you download copies from Everybody’s Welcome.
Good News for home, school and parish working together: The Wednesday Word - a new weekly resource to enrich family time. Visit www.wednesdayword.org to find out more
There is a pack for every school and parish.
The pack contains group discussion sheets and a DVD which can be used in a variety of ways. For more information please contact
Email : stym@hallam-diocese.com Telephone: 0114 2566 407
Here’s some feedback
“All in all it was well received and the DVD was a good multi-sensory way of stimulating discussion”
“We all felt more positive about contribution to family life, as if it had much more meaning and purpose”
Marriage Preparation in a Catholic Church
To get married in a Catholic Church, at least one of you will be a baptised Catholic.
You should approach the priest of the parish where you intend to marry before you arrange your marriage preparation. The priest or Deacon will make the necessary arrangements for the ceremony.
The RC Diocese of Hallam has developed its own marriage preparation programme called “Preparing for a Lifetime Together” in co-operation with Marriage Care Hallam, Worldwide Marriage Encounter (England and Wales) and Prepare/Enrich UK, using research based information and the considerable experience of the Development Group.
The course is used throughout the Diocese, and has been bought by other Dioceses both at home and abroad.
“The course exceeded my expectations. I would recommend it to other people getting married and reassure them that it is probably not what they would expect! We were made to feel welcome and comfortable.”
Presented by trained married couples to small groups of engaged couples, the course covers a wide range of topics relevant to those about to marry. Part of the course is the “Prepare/Enrich” inventory, which helps couples to explore their own relationship strengths and growth areas, and offers its own workbook to reinforce and supplement our course material.
The course consists of five sessions of 1 1/2 – 2 hours:
1. Welcome; “Prepare/Enrich” Inventory (done online)
2. Communication
3. Managing Conflict (transitions and family patterns)
4. Sexuality and Parenthood
5. Marriage as Covenant and Sacrament
6. Prepare/Enrich feedback
Because it is a “natural” way of living doesn’t mean that it is always easy – but there are ways of getting over difficult times and enjoying the good times more.
We take marriage seriously and want to offer you support and encouragement before you make your public life-long commitment to each other.
There is a couple to couple session to explore together your relationship strengths and growth areas, using the results of the “Prepare/Enrich” inventory as a basis to work from.
It can also be delivered over is two Saturdays or Sundays.
The atmosphere is welcoming, relaxed and confidential (apart from the legal requirement to disclose certain issues if they become known).
NB Presenters cannot take responsibility for childcare during the sessions.
The rest of the course is offered free of charge to those who are to marry in the Catholic Church.
For up to date information about courses please contact us on 0114 2566407 , email stym@hallam-diocese.com or visit the Latest News tab (above).
Places are limited and you will need to book online. Please visit wwme.org.uk/weekends/
Church Requirements
To keep this section simple only the priest is referred to, although parts of it may apply to lay people, parish sisters or deacons who have responsibilities in some parishes.
For more information about civil requirements click here.
* You are both baptised Roman Catholics
or:
* One of you is a baptised Roman Catholic and the other is a baptised Christian.
The Catholic partner will be asked to promise to uphold and preserve their Catholic faith, and to do all they can to bring up any children of the marriage in the Catholic faith.
The parish priest will ask the Catholic to sign a form to confirm this.
or:
* One of you is a baptised Roman Catholic and the other is not a baptised Christian.
Special permission is required from the Bishop; your priest will advise you about this.
and:
* Both of you are free to marry. That is:
One or both are widowed.
Neither of you has been married before.
If either of you has been married before, and your previous partner is still alive, contact your parish priest to discuss whether you are free to marry in a Catholic church.
If you have special reasons, you may be given permission (a letter of freedom) by your parish priest to get married in a Catholic church outside your parish.
You should meet with him before you make any arrangements in any other parish.
* If you wish to be married in the eyes of the Church, your wedding should take place in a Catholic church.
In special circumstances where the partner who is not a Catholic is a practising member of another Church, or has some definite attachment to it, the Bishop may grant permission for the wedding to take place in that partner’s church.
Your priest will advise you about this.
Weddings in hotels etc and wedding packages abroad are generally not valid as Catholic marriages.
If you have any questions about the validity of your chosen venue, please contact the Chancellor of the Diocese on 0114 2566450 or email: tribunal@hallam-diocese.com
* Baptismal Certificates.
If you are baptised (Christened) you will need a Baptismal Certificate.
The Catholic partner:
Needs to provide one issued in the previous six months.
You can obtain this by writing to the church where you were baptised, stating that you are getting married. Give your full name and date of birth and approximately when you were baptised.
Your Baptismal Certificate should refer to your Confirmation. If you were confirmed in a different parish, you may need to get a separate Confirmation Certificate.
If you have not been Confirmed you should talk to your priest about this at your first meeting.
The partner who is not a Catholic:
Needs to produce or obtain a Baptismal Certificate from the church where you were baptised (Christened).
* A Certificate or Licence from the Civil Registrar.
You must give notice of your marriage at the Register Office where you live. If one of you lives in another registration district, you must inform that Register Office also.
You can give notice and apply for a “Certificate” up to twelve months in advance of your wedding but you must give at least 16 days notice.
You should take your Certificate(s) to your priest as soon as you obtain it.
Full details of civil requirements are on: www.gro.gov.uk/gro/content/marriages/
* A Death Certificate or Decree of Nullity , should either be necessary.
* A Pre-Nuptial Enquiry Form.
This brings all the “paperwork” together.
Your priest will supply this and you will complete it with him.
Confirming a date well in advance will give a greater chance of your choice being available.
It will also make co-ordinating all aspects of your wedding easier.
It will give adequate time to complete your marriage preparation before the business of arranging your wedding happens. Ideally you should start your marriage preparation at least six months before your wedding.
If, for any reason you cannot give the required notice, contact your parish priest as soon as possible.
He will also suggest what might be appropriate payment for the services of flower arrangers, musicians and altar servers, if you use them.
These fees will generally be only a small part of the average cost of a wedding.
Talk to him about whether to have your wedding service with or without a Nuptial Mass.
Part of your Marriage Preparation is designed to give you a greater understanding of the wedding service.
Together with your priest you will make your final decisions about readings, the form of your service and who will do what.
He will also advise you about the practical arrangements such as flowers, musicians, whether you can video or photograph your service, where might be best to take photographs, whether confetti is allowed, and any other details which apply in that church.
Marriage Matters
Marriage Matters is a collection of 60 word snippets, adapted from the Sunday Mass Scripture Reading reflections found in I AM WITH YOU Year C. These can be placed in a Newsletter, Bulletin, Website or Blog.
The book is designed to support, encourage, inspire, challenge and motivate couples to deepen their relationship with one another and with God. Its sole purpose is to enhance relationships and heighten the profile of Marriage and its sanctity and significance in the life of the family, the Church, communities and Society as a whole.
Marriage Care
All relationships have ups and downs, but sometimes they can get a bit stuck and it’s hard to talk things through or get to a positive solution. That’s when help from a skilled couple relationship counsellor can make all the difference. Whether you are feeling things just aren’t quite right or whether you are encountering serious difficulties, we are here to listen and to support you towards a positive outcome.
For more information and to find a trained counsellor please visit:
http://www.marriagecare.org.uk/how-we-help/relationship-counselling/
Marriage Enrichment
As time progresses and the early romance begins to wear off, most married couples drift into taking each other for granted. Other things begin to take up more and more of their time and the vision they had for their marriage begins to fade. A marriage enrichment weekend gives a couple time alone together and helps them to rediscover that vision, no matter how long they have been married.
For more information please visit https://wwme.org.uk
Retrouvaille
Retrouvaille has been working with couples in troubled marriages in the UK since 2007.
Retrouvaille is a French word meaning to find each other, oneself, the way again.
Programs are open to couples of all denominations or those with no faith.
Read more about Retrouvaille on their website:
Family Groups Movement (England & Wales)
The Family Groups Movement seeks to build an extended family atmosphere in Catholic parishes.
If you would like to read more and how to start a group in your parish please visit:
www.catholicfamily.org.uk/related-work/parish-family-groups.
Life Fertility Care
LIFE FERTILITY CARE - AN ALTERNATIVE TO IVF
The Life Fertility Care programme promotes and supports reproductive health and fertility. FertilityCare helps couples to understand their fertility potential before they try to conceive and offers evaluation and treatment for infertility or recurrent miscarriage for married couples.
We are a specialist programme for those looking for fertility related support and treatment that comes from an ethical perspective beyond what is generally on offer within the NHS currently or feel that the NHS is currently not sufficiently providing for their ethical needs.
We specifically hold:
1. A child is a gift from God
2. That the best place for receiving this gift is within marriage and within an act of natural intercourse.
3. That fertility is equally a beautiful gift from God and best never deliberately destroyed neither temporarily or permanently.
4. That life starts at fertilisation (when sperm meets egg) and lasts until natural death.
5. That all human life, whatever its stage of development or functionality, deserves equal respect and protection.
6. That medicine needs to respect (ie. not interfere with) the unitive bond of marriage at any time.
Becoming a Registered Facilitator
As Family Caring Caring Trust has ceased to operate we do not offer this training.
Family Caring Trust Parenting Programmes
We use Family Caring Trust parenting programmes that aim to help parents and carers identify their existing parenting skills, polish them up and introduce them to new ones. For more information contact lrendell@hallam-diocese.com
Catholic Grandparents Association
The Catholic Grandparents Association is a group of people united by a belief in the importance of the vocation of Grandparents.
The CGA now has branches in Ireland, where Grandparents can meet to pray, exchange advice and information and support each other-more are in the pipeline.
It recently spread its wings to the United States of America. CGA also promotes an annual Grandparents Pilgrimage to the Shrine of Our Lady, Walsingham, England.
CGA in England and Wales was launched on May 9th 2014.
For more information and to keep in touch about details of Pilgrimages visit: http://catholicgrandparentsassociation.com
Interchurch Families
Couples in which each of the partners belong to a different Christian denomination are often referred to as Interchurch Families, they can sometimes also be called mixed marriages. Usually these couples are Roman Catholic or Orthodox and another Christian Church tradition.
Support for Separated and Divorced Catholics
Recovering from relationship breakdown? The Restored Lives course supports and empowers people to move forward from divorce and separation, or the breakdown of any serious relationship, to live a full life, free from past issues. Restored Lives has helped thousands of people over 20 years and has been developed by divorcees and professionals at Holy Trinity Brompton (HTB). Whatever your situation, background or belief, it gives you emotional and practical support to recover from relationship breakdown in a safe, non-judgemental environment. Come on a course to meet people in a similar situation and listen to expert advice as well as numerous stories from people who have successfully moved on. For more information stym@hallam-diocese.com 0114 2566407
Catholics Experiencing Domestic Abuse Resources
For resources, information and helplines
New Resource for Baptism Preparation
Baptism - helping your children get the most from life
New Scripture Resource for Families- Exploring Real Questions in Family Life
Bishop Ralph has purchased a copy for each parish in Hallam and a copy has been sent to Parish Priests.
It is a useful resource for parish groups
National Board of Catholic Women (NBCW) Guide to the Annulment Process
Mental Health
Download and print this resource for use in parishes
Lifting the Lid creating a space for churches to listen and respond
Catholic Mental Health Project
Notice board for latest news
/http://www.catholicmentalhealthproject.org.uk/
Domestic Violence
A new guide, written for clergy, religious and laity by Dr Christauria Welland, on how we can help Catholic families troubled by relationship violence is FREE to download from www.paxinfamilia.org.
Mothers Prayers
Mothers Prayers was started in England in November 1995 and has spread rapidly throughout the world with contacts in over 100 Countries and has the approval, support and blessing of Christian leaders of all denominations.